Trust.

kay so somebody told me the other day that they really wished they had a certain person's trust more than just about everything they don't have. Actually I've heard that a bit lately, but yesterday for whatever reason it stood out. And this is a really complicated topic because even if you try to earn their trust and do nothing wrong, you can't always earn trust, because of their own experiances. This isn't a guide to getting someone's trust because I can't promise that. What this is going to deal with is knowing what do with the situation.

Okay first off, whether you are deciding on whether to give the person trust, or respecting someone who just isn't trusting you, a Christain approach to the situation is needed.

Matthew 22:39 says And the second (most important commandment) is like it: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.' What does that mean? It means whether we decide to give someone trust or not, whether we loathe not being trusted, we still must love the person. Love is defined in 1st Corinthians 4-5. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Okay so you may be asking me, what I'm getting at: first off if you're dealing with lack of trust, you have to be patient, kind, and try to not be easily angered by the small situations that come around, because your relationships will persevere and are what you need to hold onto.

And if you are deciding whether to trust somebody, protect them from stumbling into sin, delight in the truth! If you make rules or don't trust do it because you are looking out for them, not because you are trying to get personal benifit from the situation. Yes you have to take into account who the person is. Trusting a friend who is known to tell all secrets and was an ex-theif, you're bank account number, might not be the best idea. It dosen't mean you don't love them, but it might cause them to stumble into sin. But at the same time don't hold it against people, or it becomes a record of wrongs. I think if you aren't going to trust somebody about something that they don't have past records of or that aren't likely there must be reasoning behind the thought. In any case no matter what you decide to do, you have to make it clear that you still care about the person and that they're not a worse person if they stumble and explain you are trying to protect them.

Because I think a lot of times people don't want to be trusted randomly.....but even if it's just a tiny bit of trust over something insignificant, it's the feeling that someone believes you and loves you. That's what everyone craves.